Start Dating a guy just separated

Dating a guy just separated

It wasn’t a question of whether he and his wife were going to divorce – the relationship was toxic, the lawyers were in place, it was definitely over. They were well-matched and perfectly adorable together. You can listen to all these stories, but they won’t inform YOUR situation.

Being separated and not dating is one of the hardest temptations to resist. You'll also make your decision about more than just what you want.

Decide wisely because a lot of heartache is at stake.

There’s no love there though, we’ve clearly moved on. I have my stuff together…own my own place, pursuing an MBA, good job, do the best for my kids, and I’m in a good place right now.

The relationship might have been dead five years ago, but the paperwork is still pending. A man who says he’s ready to move on isn’t necessarily ready to move on. After all, he doesn’t even know if he is or if he isn’t.

But, most likely, because he’s still emotionally reeling from the death of his relationship. It’s not that he didn’t care about her; it’s that he wasn’t ready for another commitment so soon after declaring his bachelorhood….

I wrote about this extensively here, in a post called “When Do You Begin Dating Again After a Long-Term Relationship or Marriage? And you’re certainly not ready to love with reckless abandon. So, Sara, like most situations that stymie my readers, the answer isn’t as obvious as “dump him” or “go for it.” It depends on the man, the nature of his divorce, his emotional availability, and his ability to get in touch with himself.

Any advice would be wonderful- thanks in advance for your response!