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It's expected that the couple keep the shadchan up-to-date on how the shidduch is going at regular intervals.

Both sets of parents talk to each other, and then when the setting is more relaxed, they go into another room, leaving the man and woman in the living room to speak among themselves.

Some use this opportunity to actually ask each other pertinent questions, while some just want to see if they like each other, relying more on the information they got from the shadchen or from other people.

The prospective partners either date each other or in stricter communities they go to a "bashow" or sit in.

A shidduch often begins with a recommendation from family members, friends or others who see matchmaking as a mitzvah, or commandment.

Also, the decision as to whether or not the mate is good can be made with the emotional boundary of the shadchan who, if so desired by the couple, can call and talk to either side in the beginning stages of the dating to iron out issues that can crop up during the dating process.

Usually as the couple see more of each other the shadchan backs away and lets the couple manage it themselves.

Also the age when shidduchim start may vary by community.