Start Teenagers acting as adults in chat rooms

Teenagers acting as adults in chat rooms

Can you imagine standing in the corner of a room hearing your parents talk about how terrible you are?

It’s not that I don’t trust my kids, it’s simply that I know pornography is readily available and especially tempting when kids are tired, lonely or bored.

Your job from now on is to shut up and listen.” I remember feeling a bit defensive the first time I heard this counsel. And besides, things change—how would I offer my wisdom on future problems? And here’s what I’ve learned: when you take the time to listen, truly listen, your kids will ask your opinion. Criticizing Excessively I think we all know the evils of fault-finding, but in parenting, criticism (to some degree) is a necessary evil.

Parent to child is one of the very few relationships where you do need to offer correction. Don’t you hate it when someone peppers you with questions without even waiting for your answers?

One evening my sons came home with the same exclamation, “It’s amazing how many kids hate their parents!

” We talked for an hour or so about why, and I’ve interviewed several teenagers over the last few months for further clarity.

It’s our job to teach kids to comb their hair, take out the garbage, do their homework, etc. No one can handle a barrage of disapproval; especially teenagers. Sure, ask one or two questions, but then just sit back and listen. When teaching, I like to get a great discussion going in the classroom. As the moments tick by, I lean on the podium and say, “It’s OK.

And remember, kids are criticized all day by teachers and peers; home should be a haven of acceptance and love (as well as occasional reminders to trim their fingernails). Grilling Them With Questions Perhaps this complaint sounds contradictory to the first. But I think we all know there’s an enormous difference between asking and listening. I can wait.” Without fail, I learn the most from my class when I’m willing to let the room grow silent. When the conversation lulls, simply say, “I’m listening.” That pause, the permission to gather their thoughts, implies safety and leads to real conversation. Telling Embarrassing Stories or Complain About Them Publicly I can scarcely go to any social gathering or social media without hearing someone trash talk their kids.

Whenever I write about media, I get all kinds of accusations about my crazy strict parenting.