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What is an invalidating environment

Abuse (Hitting/Physical assault) – Abuse is the ultimate invalidation tactic.

Ignoring – Indicating to another person that they do not exist or that they are not worthy of your acknowledgement or communication.

Resentments – Holding a resentment against someone or holding it over their head in an attempt to influence them, therefore invalidating what they have to say.

Overempowerment – This can lead a child to believe that they can do or have anything they want in a world that does not work that way. Lecturing – This one presents an attitude of, “You’re wrong for what you said or did and it is my job to correct and scold you for it.” Or, “You obviously don’t know what you’re talking about, so let me inform you from my vast knowledge of the subject.” It also indicates to the person that they are not intelligent and therefore need to be educated.

Intellectualizing – Avoiding emotional content, the other person’s emotions, and turning it into not just brainiac talk, but also sending the message that the other person is not intelligent or less intelligent. Threatening – Threatening another person in any way based on what they have said or done is an invalidation of their communication.

The term invalidation is associated with Marsha Linehan and Dialectical Behavioral Therapy.

Invalidation can happen anywhere, and in any relationship.

Sarcasm – As mentioned previously, sarcasm is a tool that adults use most often for humorous reasons.